In This Guide
Why Financial Planning Should Start Early
Long-term care is expensive — a private room in a nursing facility can run well over $100,000 a year in many parts of the country, and even part-time in-home care adds up quickly. Many families don't research their options until a crisis forces the issue, which limits choices and can mean missing out on planning strategies (like certain Medicaid asset planning) that require lead time. Starting this conversation while your loved one is stable gives you far more options.
What Medicare Covers (and Doesn't)
This is the single most common point of confusion for families: Medicare does not cover long-term custodial care — help with bathing, dressing, and daily activities over an extended period. Medicare covers: short-term skilled nursing facility stays after a qualifying hospital stay (up to 100 days, with cost-sharing after day 20), home health care that is medically necessary and skilled (not custodial), and hospice care for a terminal diagnosis. If a family's plan relies on Medicare to cover long-term memory care or assisted living, that gap needs to be addressed early.
What Medicaid Covers
Unlike Medicare, Medicaid does cover long-term custodial care, including nursing home care and, in many states, home and community-based services through waiver programs. However, Medicaid has strict income and asset limits that vary by state, and qualifying often requires "spending down" assets — a process with complex rules and lookback periods (typically 5 years) for asset transfers. This is an area where consulting an elder law attorney well before care is needed can meaningfully protect a family's financial position.
Long-Term Care Insurance
If your loved one purchased a long-term care insurance policy years ago, review it now — before care is needed — to understand what triggers coverage (usually needing help with a certain number of "activities of daily living"), the daily/monthly benefit amount, and any waiting period before benefits begin. Filing a claim can take time, so understanding the policy in advance avoids delays when care starts.
VA Benefits for Veterans and Spouses
Veterans (and in some cases surviving spouses) may qualify for VA Aid & Attendance, a benefit that provides additional monthly income to help cover the cost of long-term care, on top of a standard VA pension. This benefit is significantly underused because many families don't know it exists or assume the veteran doesn't qualify. A local Veterans Service Officer (free of charge) can help determine eligibility and assist with the application.
Paying for In-Home Care
For families not yet needing facility-level care, in-home help is often paid out-of-pocket, through long-term care insurance, or in some cases through Medicaid home and community-based waiver programs (availability varies significantly by state). Some families also use a reverse mortgage or home equity line against the care recipient's home, though this carries real tradeoffs worth discussing with a financial advisor before committing.
Getting Professional Help
Three professionals are worth consulting before a crisis: an elder law attorney for Medicaid planning and asset protection, a financial advisor with long-term care planning experience, and a geriatric care manager who can help coordinate the practical side of care while you handle the financial side. Your local Area Agency on Aging (find yours via the Eldercare Locator) can also provide free benefits counseling and point you toward local resources.
Sources & References
- Medicare.gov. "What Medicare Covers." medicare.gov — accessed 2026.
- Medicaid.gov. "Long-Term Services & Supports." medicaid.gov — accessed 2026.
- U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. "Aid and Attendance Benefits." va.gov — accessed 2026.
- Eldercare Locator, U.S. Administration on Aging. eldercare.acl.gov — accessed 2026.
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